I'll be on live from 2.30 pm and the interview will not be a discussion but rather a conversation with me about my life, my experiences, and my decision to write a book. The interview will last approximately 20 mins. It's available on playback for those who missed it but I'm not sure how long for.
I hope you all enjoy :) Please write any feedback on the interview here on my blog.
I really enjoyed my interview with Charlie. She was lovely and made me feel very welcome. I always find it awkward on radio interviews because they seem to cut you off suddenly which is frustrating when you are thinking of a couple of things you want to get into conversation. I was cut off before I had the chance to say 2 things firstly - that as much as I get on with guys (I have always had close male friends from a young age) I am also equally a girls girl and I think some ladies see me as some sort of femme fatale and husband stealer. The truth is I am very concious of other peoples feelings and certainly none of my friends have a problem with me being around their men. I am an extremely loyal person. I think it's a common misconception that even in our personal lives escorts will target and flirt with any man regardless of who they are with. I would never date a married man or a man with a girlfriend.
And secondly (thankfully Charlie added this in after I had gone) escorting is not something I'd recommend young girls to get into. Maybe this confused people and maybe some thought it was hypocritical but here's my reasoning - I consider myself very lucky to have spent 9 years in this profession and come out unscathed. It's an extremely dangerous job to be in, not for the reasons you might necessarily think ie the risk of physical violence (that's certainly never happened to me nor have I been anywhere close) but rather the risk of losing ones self respect and ending up on a slippery slope of alcoholism and/or drugs.
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what a wonderful, warm and honest interview :-)
ReplyDeleteYou did yourself proud, but I was also impressed with the lady from Radio Solent.
The piece came across as a genuine discussion and not merely an opportunity for the presenter to put you on the spot and put forward her own views. Congratulations to you both :-)
Once again I was impressed with your honesty and integrity. You are always clear about who you are, what you do and what boundaries you have. People need to understand that there are emotions involved, on both sides, but that while you can and do connect with clients it has to beon yur terms. It simply ins't realistic for an escort to be 'in love' with their clients. Just like any other type of work, you are paid for a service and that service ceases at the end of your time together. No one expects their accountant, mechanic or whatever to provide free services outside of their contracted work. Why should it be different for an escort?
I look forward to your next contribution on the debate surrounding escorting :-)
Until then, I hope the new life continues to pan out well for you.
Thank you for your kind comments anonamous guy :) Charlie was lovely and made me feel very welcome and comfortable on her show. It's a bit neerve racking when you don't know what's going to be asked of you or what peoples thoughts are about me and my book x
ReplyDeleteI'm intrigued because I can't quite figure what your actual view is of other ladies. Either those who are already escorts, or those who might be considering becoming an escort.
ReplyDeleteIn a previous blog you expressed concern about an 18 year old who had contacted you. After this interview you wanted to make it clear that you wouldn't encorage others to become escorts.
You are clearly comfortable about your time and exeperience as an escort. Is it that you don't wish to 'encourage'?
I appreciate that there are many issues with Escorting and that you need to be a strong person to deal with all of the emotional/personal issues that will arise. Clearly there will be people who wan't be suited to escorting. In addition, as you've made very clear in your book and blog you have toi take a great deal of care about your personal safety and that some people don't recognise how important this is.
Notwithstanding this, surely it is a matter of personal choice. I belive one of the greatest contributions you make to the discussions surrounding escorting is your warts and all approach. The fact that you have to seperate/compartmentaluise your emotions. That personal safety is very important and that even with all your care and attention some interesting/challenging/difficult men can get through.
stay happy :-)
hello again, hopefully my extended edited blog post here helped explain my views to you. Also the 'Teenage escort' post might help explain things too. I think I've been very lucky, and some other girls are but unfortunately many aren't so. The escorts I know in the biz and am friendly with all have their heads screwed on :) xxx
ReplyDeleteThe way I look at it, any woman (regardless of her age), is at risk in this business, if she does not use commensense. On the otherhand, a younger woman will usually have far less awareness or experience of the related issues.
ReplyDeleteTurning to another aspect of this business, I wondered what your thoughts were, on a woman working for an escort agency, as opposed to working independently?
Hi Julian, yes I agree. My thoughts about agencies are that they provide a great service for those ladies that haven't time or the business sense to sort things out for themselves. Obviously the agencies vary and for girls to be safe they need to make sure they are with a good agency and not one that exploits girls. Usually the best agency owners are women and women that have been a successful escort themselves previously, because they understand the business.
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