Listen to my interview with Al Needham about my book...

Here's the audio clip of my first live public appearance talking about my book. If you remember I talked at the Left Lion Extravaganza here in Nottingham on the 3rd October. Here I openly discuss with Al my reasons for writing my book, my job as an escort, the misconceptions about my job and lastly questions were opened up to the audience. Out of all the interesting questions I got asked and further ones I could have been asked, one lady asked if I paid tax! Lol. Answer was yes btw :) She was an accountant haha :) PS - note the Bach's Rescue Remedy Spray in the yellow bottle! Lol. yes I was very nervous.

Left Lion interview

Al Needham Nottingham's Mr Sex here's his blog - top bloke

Belle De Jour

I have been asked my thoughts on Belle de Jour outing herself as Doctor Brooke Magnati. I am ashamed to say (sorry Brooke) that I was a none believer. In fact it was the book Belle De Jour that prompted me to write. I found the book very sensationalised and titillating and I was convinced that it was written by a man! I wanted to write a book to show a more realistic rounded view of both the good and bad side of escorting.

I have to confess I hadn't started reading the blog, until recently so I can only really comment on the book. The book made escorting sound very glamorous, and it can be but it certainly isn't always like that, there wasn't anything negative about the profession in there. I wrote about my embarrassing experiences and I think had Brooke done the same it would have sounded more believable. I think for a rounded book you need 'the good the bad and the ugly' so to speak.

I realise now that maybe Brooke because she was keeping anonymous almost created another persona for herself, there was Brooke the doctor, X the escort, and then Belle who was possibly a character very different to her actual escort persona and certainly the agency she worked with was also very different and far less glamorous than the one described in the book.

I admire her courage in outing herself although from what I've read she was put in an impossible situation and had to come clean before someone did it for her against her will. What an awful situation to be in. I think she has been very lucky to have been able to keep anonymous for so long with the tv series which she apparently helped with along with other things. This was another reason I was doubting Belle's existence because I couldn't believe that she would have been able to keep anonymous for so long, and I joked on one forum thread somewhere that I didn't believe she existed because why would she have secrecy like the MI5 when there are so many greedy people who want to make money and don't care who they hurt in the long run. I just didn't think there were that many decent people around and it's refreshing to know that there are those people out there. I think that Brooke has been incredibly lucky to have avoided these sorts of people and she obviously has amazing, loyal friends. Unfortunately it looks like there was just one bad egg, but still I think it has been 4 or 5 years of anonymity.

I wish Brooke all the best and I am sure she feels proud of her success both as a doctor and as an escort, blogger, best selling author and with the success of the TV series. I have a lot of respect and admiration for her. She has paved the way for all of us escorts, broken the stereo types, and shown that some of us are intelligent and can also have successful high power jobs, and that many of us are just normal girls.

Girl power! Rar :)

Erotica This weekend!

Olympia at Earls Court http://www.erotica-uk.com/

I'll be on George Mccoy's stand (G10) selling signed copies of my book (tomorrow) Friday 20th, Saturday 21st and Sunday 22nd.

Anybody that hasn't been before it's great fun for adults. Lots of stands with fashion, fetish, lingerie, erotic books (I know a good one, The Girlfriend Experience hehe ; -p)

http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/product/1844547523/ref=sib_rdr_dp There's also porn, toys, fun sexy stuff and erotic art, sculpture and photography.

Please feel free to come and say hi :)

Update - thank you to all those who came to say hi and who bought a copy of my book! I sold all my signed copies the last ones in the hotel bar at 2am! Hehe :) Especially those that follow me on twitter and my blog - Scott (my new Twitter friend ) Helen and Babs X Also thanks to you Nick the coach driver :) X

The 'man look'

I just had to post this because twice in the past 2 days I have had guys asking me where something is and not being able to find it.

Now perhaps you guys can shed some light on the 'man look'. Let me explain the 'man look' is a half hearted 'look' for something. Ie - you've looked at the scene in front of you as a whole and haven't been able to see what you are looking for, usually because a) you haven't actually moved anything and b) you haven't looked properly!

It's something that I was used to hearing at home my dad shouting 'where's my shirt?' 'It's in the airing cupboard' my Mum would call back. 'I've looked and it's not there!' My dad would shout adamantly. Frustrated my mum would end up having to go to the airing cupboard herself and within a matter of 2 seconds literally she would pull it out, usually without having to move anything at all.

Yesterday at my gym I arrived to see the owner Andy standing in his cupboard looking puzzled - it's not a big cupboard, its about the size of an airing cupboard but it wasn't cluttered and the small amount of things in there were tidy and neat. He was looking for his scales and knew that they were in his walk in cupboard on one of the 6 shelves. He was scratching his head for ages. I laughed and told him he'd done a 'man look' and went to the cupboard myself. He explained how it wasn't on the first shelf or on the second as he gave me a run-down of what was on each shelf and just as he was about to say it wasn't on the third - he saw the scales sitting there, underneath something else, but clearly visible without having to move anything!

Now the day before I had a guy email me saying he couldn't find a photo of me that he liked. I explained that there were no recent changes to my site so I again I joked and told him he'd had a 'man look'. I reiterated that it would still be there and asked him to go back to my site have a proper look. He came back to me and told me he couldn't find it. I went on the site myself and found the photo in a matter of seconds on my 'reviews' page.

I rest my case! :) Any guys shed any light on why you don't look for things properly? Lol

BBC Radio Solent live interview MONDAY 26th Oct...

I'll be on live from 2.30 pm and the interview will not be a discussion but rather a conversation with me about my life, my experiences, and my decision to write a book. The interview will last approximately 20 mins. It's available on playback for those who missed it but I'm not sure how long for.

http://news.bbc.co.uk/local/hampshire/hi/tv_and_radio/

I hope you all enjoy :) Please write any feedback on the interview here on my blog.

I really enjoyed my interview with Charlie. She was lovely and made me feel very welcome. I always find it awkward on radio interviews because they seem to cut you off suddenly which is frustrating when you are thinking of a couple of things you want to get into conversation. I was cut off before I had the chance to say 2 things firstly - that as much as I get on with guys (I have always had close male friends from a young age) I am also equally a girls girl and I think some ladies see me as some sort of femme fatale and husband stealer. The truth is I am very concious of other peoples feelings and certainly none of my friends have a problem with me being around their men. I am an extremely loyal person. I think it's a common misconception that even in our personal lives escorts will target and flirt with any man regardless of who they are with. I would never date a married man or a man with a girlfriend.

And secondly (thankfully Charlie added this in after I had gone) escorting is not something I'd recommend young girls to get into. Maybe this confused people and maybe some thought it was hypocritical but here's my reasoning - I consider myself very lucky to have spent 9 years in this profession and come out unscathed. It's an extremely dangerous job to be in, not for the reasons you might necessarily think ie the risk of physical violence (that's certainly never happened to me nor have I been anywhere close) but rather the risk of losing ones self respect and ending up on a slippery slope of alcoholism and/or drugs.

BBC Radio Nottingham ...

I'll be on live briefly for 5 minutes discussing escorting tomorrow morning around 8.30 :)

http://www.bbc.co.uk/nottingham/local_radio/

Notoreity - 'write about me please Bea!'

I got this email the other day. It really tickled me :) .....

I read your book Bea - nice job! So like I said it was very interesting and entertaining and a pretty honest insight into someone's personal life of adventure. Nothing seemed sugar-coated except for the horrible time you had putting up with me.(Thanks for leaving that part out.) No actually if I knew you were writing the book I'd have paid you to mention me - as vanity has it - and it's nice to piggy-back on another's fame or notoriety. Anyway I gave my copy to my best friend but wouldn't reveal that I was a client. Heh-heh. (I told him to read it to see if I were mentioned.) So I'm awaiting his reaction to your story that I found so intriguing.'

How funny so this guy Frank (pseudonym btw :) actually was disappointed I hadn't written about him! Lol. There's me carefully changing names, places, visual descriptions to avoid others knowing who I was speaking about, and yet there's some that actually wanted me to write about them and would cherish the fact I had remembered our date and that it was special and/or memorable enough for me to write about it in a book about my life story! Lol :)