Monday 27 September 2010

What makes Gordon Ramsay so sexy?

his confidence and passion in his cooking. Plus he's a bit rough round the edges.. which i like :)

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Monday 13 September 2010

what has been the feedback from any of your former clients who have been mentioned in your book ?

Two of them I am still very close friends with now, and both say they enjoyed the Girlfriend Experience very much, and found it interesting to read my perceptions of our dates. Other ex clients have written to me disappointed they weren't mentioned! lol :)

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I loved your book! Not really a question I just wanted to tell you how fabulous it was. From a fellow happy escort x

thank you! I am so pleased you enjoyed it. Please feel free to write a book review on Amazon if you have time :) all the best x

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in your book perhaps future book(s), do any of your former clients (not just any client to make it tie in with your own story) give their perspective on the whole escorting experience? what they got out of it. frustrations. expectations etc.?

Have you read my book?

There are a couple of my escort reviews that were from an online review site, that I quoted in the book, so that showed what those particular people thought about their dates with me. Since I have stopped escorting the reviews are now no longer available online. I had over 50 positive reviews :)

It was important for me to get outside input into The Girlfriend Experience, which is why there were not only ex clients views on me and our dates, but it is also why my mum and various family members and friends wrote their thoughts on my chosen profession. I wanted it to be a well balanced book, showing different people's views/thoughts as well as my own.

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Tuesday 7 September 2010

how often did you get tested for STD's? did you ever do it without a condom?

Every 3 months and I was always clear. They are very helpful at the STD clinic if you tell them you do sex work. I had all my hepatitis injections, and they provide free condoms. I always used condoms except with 2 people that I was extremely fond of, and this was in my first year escorting. When I got accused of giving one of them an STD, I went and had myself checked out. I was fine, it transpired he had caught something off his wife who was having an affair with a guy at her gym! That made me realize that I'd been very silly, and I used them religiously ever since.

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Monday 6 September 2010

i guess i meant some of the key things someone would need to address emotionally / psychologically post-escorting. not yourself perhaps as you were always doing what you wanted to do. never forced into things. but even then, there might be little things?

ah ok. I can't really say because I have no 'issues' myself after escorting either emotionally or psychologically. I don't feel any different. I am still hoping to meet my Mr Right, and live happily ever after :) I can't speak for other escorts and I don't personally know of any ex escorts that have had problems, well those that have, had problems before they started escorting, so aren't industry related. Of course there will be lots of ladies that have had to address issues post escorting, but you're asking the wrong person, sorry I can't be of more help.

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it's good to come across a bit vulnerable in your video. honest! don't be shy :)

lol ok thank you :)

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Do you think the lady interviewing you in your first blog video fancies you? She's certainly trying hard to talk in her sexiest voice :o)

lol nooooo my dear friend Nikki is well and truly straight. Sorry to spoil your fantasy ;-p

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what are some of the key things someone needs to do to be able to leave escorting. there are people who enjoy it, but many who don't. i guess everyone has a different situation. but there must be common things to be able to deal with to be able to stop?

Your question is a bit unclear, so I hope I've covered what you want to know.... Ladies that work as independent escorts can leave/stop at any time! People don't need to be 'able' to do anything. You just stop. Simples.

You should always have a back up plan/skill so that you can do something else if you have to or want to stop.

Ladies that don't enjoy it shouldn't be doing it. It is extremely damaging to women to carry on escorting if they don't want to do it and aren't enjoying it.

If you mean what tips would I give to escorts? it would be this golden solitary rule..... 'never ever do anything you don't want to do' that's it pure and simply. If you stick to this, you will always be ok working.

Only see who you want, when you want and on your terms and ALWAYS be prepared to walk away if you are not happy/comfortable.

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If someone takes a job serving fast food just because they need the money, is it different to someone doing sex work just because they need the money?

In my opinion - no. Having worked in the sex industry and being someone who thinks there is nothing morally wrong with it, I'm sure I've answered as you would have expected me to answer - other people however are not as open minded as me :)

However saying that what you have to remember is that the two jobs are not comparable. In one you are selling food, in sex work you are selling yourself. Sex work is fraught with potential danger, and a risk of loss of self respect and a whole host of things that can cause ir-repairable damage to a person both physically and mentally.

There's also the fact that you'll never get addicted to the money working in a fast food joint, but you can get very easily addicted to the money you can earn in the sex industry.

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do you have any specific plans, other than your book and associated publicity? have you any other plans to help people who might benefit from your help?

I love to help people! And would find it very rewarding to help escorts wanting to get out of the business, support for ladies in the business, advocating the legalization of prostitution, and any agony aunt/relationship advice for men and women. The problem is I need to earn a living, so for me to put a lot of time into these things I'd have to make it pay.

Anyone can email me for agony aunt/relationship advice as long as they don't mind if I anonymously put it on my blog, along with my reply. Were you referring to something particular?

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following on from question about leaving escorting; has your self-esteem been affected since quitting escorting? I presume your dates were CONSTANTLY telling you how beautiful you are and beaming from gratitude. Do you miss that aspect?

Job/customer satisfaction/gratitude.... Of course I miss all that, but I think anyone does who takes pride in their work/business.

My self esteem hasn't been affected by finishing escorting. I am actually getting more interest from men in my personal life now that I have finished escorting. Maybe I'm giving off different vibes somehow. I have been on a few real dates, so I still receive compliments and I have some amazing male friends, who love and appreciate me, for which I am very grateful.

I am naturally a very caring, loving and generous person so I get fulfillment in my personal life from my friendships/relationships.

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Thursday 2 September 2010

you seem like a level headed person. able to do things that the majority wouldn't be able to do without eventually going off the rails. what's your secret? do you find it hard to adjust post escorting?

If you read my book you'll find out ;-p

I think you've hit the nail on the head, I'm level headed, strong minded, strong willed - don't do anything I don't want to do, and god help anyone who tries to make me ;-p Escorting isn't for everyone, and like most jobs it takes a certain type of person to deal with it emotionally/physically. All I can say from a personal point of view is that I ran my escorting as a business, listened to my gut instinct, didn't do anything I didn't want to do, was prepared to walk away, was fussy with who I saw, and when I did see people they had to see me on my terms not theirs.

Even if I was strapped for cash I wouldn't take on a job I didn't think would suit me. This wasn't just for my benefit it was for theirs too, I hate to disappoint people, so I wouldn't accept a job if I didn't think I was the right person for it. Many girls took whatever they could, and that's when it gets dangerous. Some girls get greedy.

Guys thought they had the upper hand because they were paying, they were making the choice, but the choice was mine! It was mine whether I decided to see them, and thought that I could provide them with a memorable, special experience that would be mutually enjoyable, and it was mine when I chose to give my body. Mens money did not entitle them to see me, or be intimate with me.

Yes it's very hard to adjust post escorting. The thing I miss the most apart from meeting many wonderful and interesting people, is the fabulous restaurants and hotels. I still offer platonic dates so do get the opportunity every now and then to go to nice restaurants, but not often.

Having to also curb my spending, has been the biggest challenge.

The best thing is that I am actually being asked out on real dates, which didn't happen so much before. I must be giving off different vibes :)

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