lol ok thank you :)
Monday, 6 September 2010
Do you think the lady interviewing you in your first blog video fancies you? She's certainly trying hard to talk in her sexiest voice :o)
lol nooooo my dear friend Nikki is well and truly straight. Sorry to spoil your fantasy ;-p
what are some of the key things someone needs to do to be able to leave escorting. there are people who enjoy it, but many who don't. i guess everyone has a different situation. but there must be common things to be able to deal with to be able to stop?
Your question is a bit unclear, so I hope I've covered what you want to know.... Ladies that work as independent escorts can leave/stop at any time! People don't need to be 'able' to do anything. You just stop. Simples.
You should always have a back up plan/skill so that you can do something else if you have to or want to stop.
Ladies that don't enjoy it shouldn't be doing it. It is extremely damaging to women to carry on escorting if they don't want to do it and aren't enjoying it.
If you mean what tips would I give to escorts? it would be this golden solitary rule..... 'never ever do anything you don't want to do' that's it pure and simply. If you stick to this, you will always be ok working.
Only see who you want, when you want and on your terms and ALWAYS be prepared to walk away if you are not happy/comfortable.
If someone takes a job serving fast food just because they need the money, is it different to someone doing sex work just because they need the money?
In my opinion - no. Having worked in the sex industry and being someone who thinks there is nothing morally wrong with it, I'm sure I've answered as you would have expected me to answer - other people however are not as open minded as me :)
However saying that what you have to remember is that the two jobs are not comparable. In one you are selling food, in sex work you are selling yourself. Sex work is fraught with potential danger, and a risk of loss of self respect and a whole host of things that can cause ir-repairable damage to a person both physically and mentally.
There's also the fact that you'll never get addicted to the money working in a fast food joint, but you can get very easily addicted to the money you can earn in the sex industry.
do you have any specific plans, other than your book and associated publicity? have you any other plans to help people who might benefit from your help?
I love to help people! And would find it very rewarding to help escorts wanting to get out of the business, support for ladies in the business, advocating the legalization of prostitution, and any agony aunt/relationship advice for men and women. The problem is I need to earn a living, so for me to put a lot of time into these things I'd have to make it pay.
Anyone can email me for agony aunt/relationship advice as long as they don't mind if I anonymously put it on my blog, along with my reply. Were you referring to something particular?
following on from question about leaving escorting; has your self-esteem been affected since quitting escorting? I presume your dates were CONSTANTLY telling you how beautiful you are and beaming from gratitude. Do you miss that aspect?
Job/customer satisfaction/gratitude.... Of course I miss all that, but I think anyone does who takes pride in their work/business.
My self esteem hasn't been affected by finishing escorting. I am actually getting more interest from men in my personal life now that I have finished escorting. Maybe I'm giving off different vibes somehow. I have been on a few real dates, so I still receive compliments and I have some amazing male friends, who love and appreciate me, for which I am very grateful.
I am naturally a very caring, loving and generous person so I get fulfillment in my personal life from my friendships/relationships.
Thursday, 2 September 2010
you seem like a level headed person. able to do things that the majority wouldn't be able to do without eventually going off the rails. what's your secret? do you find it hard to adjust post escorting?
If you read my book you'll find out ;-p
I think you've hit the nail on the head, I'm level headed, strong minded, strong willed - don't do anything I don't want to do, and god help anyone who tries to make me ;-p Escorting isn't for everyone, and like most jobs it takes a certain type of person to deal with it emotionally/physically. All I can say from a personal point of view is that I ran my escorting as a business, listened to my gut instinct, didn't do anything I didn't want to do, was prepared to walk away, was fussy with who I saw, and when I did see people they had to see me on my terms not theirs.
Even if I was strapped for cash I wouldn't take on a job I didn't think would suit me. This wasn't just for my benefit it was for theirs too, I hate to disappoint people, so I wouldn't accept a job if I didn't think I was the right person for it. Many girls took whatever they could, and that's when it gets dangerous. Some girls get greedy.
Guys thought they had the upper hand because they were paying, they were making the choice, but the choice was mine! It was mine whether I decided to see them, and thought that I could provide them with a memorable, special experience that would be mutually enjoyable, and it was mine when I chose to give my body. Mens money did not entitle them to see me, or be intimate with me.
Yes it's very hard to adjust post escorting. The thing I miss the most apart from meeting many wonderful and interesting people, is the fabulous restaurants and hotels. I still offer platonic dates so do get the opportunity every now and then to go to nice restaurants, but not often.
Having to also curb my spending, has been the biggest challenge.
The best thing is that I am actually being asked out on real dates, which didn't happen so much before. I must be giving off different vibes :)
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